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Adversity comes at us from the moment we are born. Infants get hungry and tired.
Toddlers grapple with language and self-control. And as children develop through
adolescence to become teenagers, life grows ever more complicated. Developing
relationships, navigating school and exercising independence — the very stuff of
growing up — naturally creates stressful situations for every child.
At each developmental stage, mindfulness can be a useful tool for decreasing
anxiety and promoting happiness. Mindfulness — a simple technique that
emphasizes paying attention to the present moment in an accepting, nonjudgmental
manner — has emerged as a popular mainstream practice in recent decades. It is
being taught to executives at corporations, athletes in the locker room, and
increasingly, to children both at home and in school.
Early Habits
Children are uniquely suited to benefit from mindfulness practice. Habits formed early
in life will inform behaviors in adulthood, and with mindfulness, we have the
opportunity to give our children the habit of being peaceful, kind and accepting.
“For children, mindfulness can offer relief from whatever difficulties they might be
encountering in life,” said Annaka Harris, an author who teaches mindfulness to
children. “It also gives them the beauty of being in the present moment.”
Part of the reason why mindfulness is so effective for children can be explained by the
way the brain develops. While our brains are constantly developing throughout our
lives, connections in the prefrontal circuits are created at their fastest rate during
childhood. Mindfulness, which promotes skills that are controlled in the prefrontal
cortex, like focus and cognitive control, can therefore have a particular impact on the
development of skills including self-regulation, judgment and patience during
childhood.
Modeling Mindfulness
Mindfulness isn’t something that can be outsourced. For parents and caregivers, the
best way to teach a child to be mindful is to embody the practice oneself.
“Learning mindfulness isn’t like piano lessons, where you can have someone else
teach it to your children,” said Susan Kaiser Greenland, a mindfulness instructor who
works with children. “You have to learn it yourself.”
Of course, being a parent is an incredibly stressful experience in its own right. For
those raising children, practicing mindfulness exercises — and ideally practicing
mindfulness meditation for even a few minutes a day — can be profoundly
beneficial, allowing caregivers to not only share the skills of happiness and
acceptance with a new generation, but also take better care of themselves at the
same time.