Research Organisation (ISRO), news came to me one day that my brother-in-
law,myfriendandguide,wasnomore.Itwasadeepshockforme.Jalalluddin
wasnotoftheageforthis.WhenIgotthenewsIwasdumbstruck.Howcould
thishavehappened?Howcouldweallbealive,andthismanbenomore?Inmy
shockIrememberspeakingwordsthatmadelittlesense.Icouldnotthink,feel
ormoveforatime.FinallyIgatheredmyselftogether,andleavinginstructions
withmycolleague,ImadepreparationstoleaveforRameswaram.
AsItravelledback home, in busesthat wheezed and groanedon the inter-
cityroads,buffetedbypeopleandthewindblowinginfromtheopenwindows,
amidst the chatter of fellow travellers, I felt myself to be completely alone.
Perhaps there comes a time in each of our lives when we finally leave our
childhoodselvesbehind—andthiswasmine.WithJalalluddin,apartofmealso
passed away. Gone forever was the boy who needed to be guided, who asked
questionsbythedozenandwhoknewthatwhateverhedid,therewasapairof
lovinghandsalwaysreadytoholdhisownhandsandguidehim.WhenIclosed
myeyes,imagesfromlongagoflashedby—ofleavingforRamanathapuram,of
Jalalluddinarrangingthemoneytobuymybooks,ofhimstandingatSantaCruz
airport, tears glistening in his eyes—tears of unbearable pride that can be felt
onlybythosewhohavetrulylovedandbroughtupachild.Isawhimwalking
with me on the sandy shores of our little town, pointing out the stars and the
moon,explainingwherethesunwentwhenitfinallysankintothesea.
Ireachedhometofindmysistergrievingpiteously.Withherwasmylittle
nieceMehboob,herfathergonewellbeforehistime.Imetmyfather,whowas
nowahundredyearsold,andyet,forthefirsttime,Ifeltthathehadreallyaged.
Thegriefoflosinghisson-in-lawseemedtohaveshiftedsomethingwithinhim.
Weputourdearfriendandsontorest.AndthewholetimeIcouldnotfindthe
tearstoshedathisgoing.ItwasasifIwaswalkinginadaze,throughafogof
memories.
Aftertheburial,myfather,thatmostperceptiveofmeneveninhisgreatold
age,heldmyhandsandsatmebesidehim.ForthefirsttimeInoticedthathe,
too, had not shed tears. He said to me, 'Abdul, do you not see how the Lord
strengthens the shadows? Had it been His will, He could have made them
constant.ButHemakesthesuntheirguide,littlebylittleHeshortensthem.He
hasmadethenightforustorest,andhassentJalalluddinintoalongsleep—a
dreamlesssleep,acompleterestofallhisbeingwithinsimpleunconsciousness.
NothinghappensthathasnotbeenordainedbyAllahandinHimwewillhaveto
keepourtrustandfaith.'
Isatbackandreflectedonmyfather'swisewords.Deathisnotsomethingto
be afraid of, and I have never seen it that way. Yet, the sadness that it brings