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loving partners to care for, help, and support each other in the fullment of their physical, social, economic,
and spiritual needs. Marriage is built on the basis of mutuality—the idea that husband and wife support
one another, each according to his or her unique gifts. Mutuality is created through the manifestation of
various qualities,including honesty,trust,openness,submission/obedience,respect,tolerance,understanding,
faithfulness, and partnership/support (Genesis 2:24). In the spirit of mutuality, a husband and wife should
share equally in both the labours and benets of marriage, including economic activities. If a husband and
wife live in this spirit of loving partnership and mutuality, peace and comfort will prevail in their marriage.
Intimacy
Marriage involves both physical and emotional intimacy. Within marriage, man and woman express their
intimacy when, through their bodies, they engage in sexual relationship. Sexual satisfaction and emotional
connection/support, together with openness, are key to establishing and nurturing intimacy (I Corinthians
7:3–5; Ephesians 5:1–33).
Commitment
Marriage is a serious commitment that involves giving oneself to another. God’s unconditional and
perpetual love for us is the model of Christian love in a family (John 3:16). In marriage, husband and wife
offer themselves fully for the good of the other. Each gives up part of their independence and self-interest,
transferring their energy and will towards the goal of mutual happiness. In the Scriptures, marital love is
compared to the love and commitment between God and humankind, or to the relationship between
Christ and His church.You may also refer to Genesis 2:24; Colossians 3:19; and Ephesians 5:25-33.
Reverence (prayerfulness)
The Scriptures also show that marriage should be entered into and sustained in a prayerful spirit. All things,
including marriage, are created by God. Husband and wife must look to God for guidance in their marriage
(Proverbs 16:3). Through prayer, we receive God’s grace. We cannot sustain our families or marriages
without God’s help, and it is through His grace that we are able to ourish (I Peter 3:7).
God’s relationship with humankind is symbolic of the marriage relationship.Therefore, marriage must be
modelled on the relationship between Jesus and the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Prayerfulness in marriage
also refers to the importance of marital communication. In prayer, we dialogue with God; likewise, in
marriage, we should dialogue with our spouses (Jeremiah 33:3).
Procreation and responsibility
Genesis identies procreation as one of the benets that can result from marriage. Procreation is not the
primary purpose of marriage, but children are a gift from God (Genesis 1:28) (see below for more on
responsible procreation).
Family Planning—Responsible procreation
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.” (Psalm 127:3)
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above and comes down from the Father of lights, with
whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.” (James 1:17)
We should understand that when God instructed Adam and Eve to “ … be fruitful and multiply, and replenish
the earth, and subdue it” (Genesis 1:28), the world population was much smaller than it is today—actually,
only a few people! It is also important to understand that the word “subdue” in this verse refers not to
domination, but to responsible management.
It is also clear from Genesis 1:28 that God expects humankind to add value to the earth. If you have so many
children that you cannot meet their needs and help them ourish, you are failing to add value as God intended.